No sane person can deny the great role of the mother, especially the role that she plays in the life of her children providing them with care, love and compassion, and the difficulty and fatigue that accompany this. Hence, Allah The Exalted commands us to be good to parents by speaking kindly to them and lowering to them the wing of humility out of mercy - especially to those who are weak, namely, the mother, because of her altruism, kindness, favors and sorrows.

　　In spite of all these favors, giving and love that are offered with pleasure and satisfaction, there are still children who complain about their mothers and wives and who complain about their mothers-in- law. The husband's mother is sometimes a considerable factor in weakening the marital relationship or causing it to be tepid or even terminated. What, then, are the things that make the mother-in- law seem so imperious and bossy? What are the features of this imperiousness? Is there any hope for treating this?

　　Causes of the Problem

　　There are many reasons for the fissure in the marital and familial relations due to the interference and imperiousness of the husband's mother, some of which are:

　　1- Agonizing psychological pain due to the disturbance of the nervous system and the commotion in the functions of the organs. It has been proven that anxiety, grief and self despair affect the different systems of the body, which may cause the disturbance of the functions of the organs. Truly, Allah The Exalted is truthful in His Saying (what means): {…and his eyes became white from grief, for he was [of that] a suppressor.} [Quran 12:84]

　　- Causing the wife to lose the ability to form a correct idea about life as a result of imposing the inherited concepts by pressure and moral force.

　　Treatment

　　- The son should read for his mother and wife - in a good familial session - chapters of encouragement and admonition about the critical points of marital life. Continuous reminder may render hard hearts into sympathetic, lenient, pitiful ones and remove their darkness.

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